What is this Attachment Parenting thing?

Me and a good friend (actually someone I have been seeing on and off for a few years) of mine where having a debate yesterday about attachment parenting. We tend to get into these hypothetical debates about a future together. It's quite funny to me cause I usually end the debates going but what does it matter unless there is an us in the future. Then he kind of stumbles and we change subjects. I say it's cause I'm 30 with two kids and he's only 24 (just turned this month!) he says I act like I'm robbing the cradle and who knows what will happen. But it got me thinking....

What exactly is Attachment Parenting?



To my friend attachment parenting is where you breast feed your kid till 5 years old and they sleep in your bed till they are 11 and are completely dependent on you for the rest of their lives.

To me AP is all about making your kids know you will always be there for them and that they are safe to explore the world, it makes them feel loved and safe and independent.

Attachment parenting focuses on the nurturing connection that parents can develop with their children. That nurturing connection is viewed as the ideal way to raise secure, independent, and empathetic children. Proponents of this parenting philosophy include the well-known pediatrician William Sears, MD. They make the case that a secure, trusting attachment to parents during childhood forms the basis for secure relationships and independence as adults.
According to WebMD 

You can debate the main functions of AP at length and people do. I'm not here to debate it, I'm not here to name it down, label it as just this and not that. I'm here to say that AP is being the best parent for your kid, letting them know you are there for them.

What I do as a semi-crunchy AP mom: 

  • I made baby food for Ariel while she was on a gluten free diet. 
  • I baby wore both of my kids, especially Ariel since she was a preemie. 
  • I co-sleep, working on getting them in their beds ... again.
  • I let them run around, climb things, in appropriate settings of course.
  • I let them do things for themselves. Even when I stand off cringing. 
  • I ask what they want to eat and when they are hungry. 

What this does for them: 

  • Let's them know I am here for them. 
  • Teaches them independence. 
  • Teaches them to evaluate risks.
  • Teaches them to eat when they are hungry. 
  • Lets them develop their own taste. 

In short I believe that my way of Attachment Parenting is teaching my kids to be human. To be themselves. To know I am here no matter what.


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